I have been so amazed at the responses to my health-related blog posts! To be honest, I nearly started a new blog when I posted my article about What is the Ideal Weight? because I feared that my fitness topic had nothing to do with Domestica but then I thought, “no, readers should see that it’s not all about baking cupcakes and devouring chocolate brownies! It’s only fair of me to show them the price I pay to indulge from time to time.”
Inspired by the stories and messages from readers who desire to be healthier and are working diligently to get there, I want to share some of the feedback I’ve received this past week. Not as a pat on my own back, but as a way to show that you are not alone! It’s true that sometimes we all just need a little push to reach the next level.
I am not going to lie, there have been a few times this past week where I have wanted to eat too much of something or to give up half way through a workout and I’ve caught myself thinking, “I can’t! What if the readers find out!” So you are motivating me, too! And for that, I thank you!
“…you are inspiring me to push myself…”
Melissa, Manitoba, Canada
“Thank you so much for reiterating that it is NOT necessary to eat more than normal or that those silly voices telling me that I am eating for 2 are a myth.”
Trista, BC, Canada
“Inspired by YOU I went out and got myself a couple of Jillian’s DVD’s!! Thanks for the kick in the bum!”
Natasha M. — British Columbia
“I love that you acknowledge it took years of trial and error and just plain time…we could all do with a longer view of ourselves instead of always looking/counting on the ‘quick fix’.”
Erin — British Columbia
“Thanks for the kick in the pants!”
Heidi — California
“I want to be that motivated after this baby comes…no excuses!!”
Pam — Manitoba
“Your blog has been so inspiring and it’s given me the extra kick in the butt that I needed to keep going…”
Nicole — British Columbia
“Reading this totally inspires me to push myself (and not give in to those “mommy” excuses).”
Adrianne –British Columbia
That being said, I also had one friend call me out and her brave disclosure made me think that there might be others who felt the same way but didn’t have the courage to challenge my opinions. I know I’m not the easiest person to confront!
Michelle, who has given me the approval to share this, explained that my posts didn’t motivate her in any way but instead, shamed her. She has been overweight for most her life and as she tackles a binge eating disorder, reading “suck it up” comments like mine only make her feel worse about her inability to conquer her food addictions.
The interesting thing is that my post about struggling to have grace for obesity was the one that pushed my friend over the edge. The irony is not lost on me — here I was admitting that I struggle with judging obese people (not exactly a great omission) and she responded to say that I was making her feel completely judged. I will be honest, I regretted being so honest after reading her heartfelt words.
But the beauty of it all is that her personal story gave me the resolution I was looking for. Hearing her speak about how badly she has wanted to beat the addiction to food and how incredibly difficult that task is in a society where gluttony and food is celebrated, really shed light for me on exactly why I should have grace for people who struggle with weight. I do not know their stories and even if I did, I’m still not justified to think less of them for it.
On a personal note, I wanted Michelle to know that I’m not only thankful that she told me how she truly feels but also incredibly proud of her for acknowledging her problems and doing her best to change her situation. The truth is, that’s all I really care about! I don’t want a world full of skinny people — I want a world full of people who give a damn.
I do believe that knowledge is power. Some of us have more knowledge about healthy living than others. My hope is that my fitness blog posts will empower and motivate people, of all sizes, to make healthier choices.
For some of you looking to lose that last five pounds, it could mean kicking it up a notch and working out twice in one day (hello after burn!). For others, it might just be a walk down the street and back. Every one of us is at a different stage in our health goals and although I am striving for peak fitness in my own life, I want to be understanding of those of you who are starting back at square one. My words are tough and I tend to call it like it is. My hope is that you know, beneath it all, if I were sitting across from you, my hand would be on your shoulder and I would be telling you how great your every accomplishment is — no matter how they compare to my own.