Although my stomach ballooned to 54″ around while these heffers were inside (6 and 7 lbs a piece!), I’ve often said that my children were actually the best thing that ever happened to my body. Yeah, you read that right. In fact, I can say they are one of the best things that ever happened to me, period. All emotional and obvious reasons aside, having these boys has changed not only my body but my mind…the most powerful body part of all.
It Could Always Be Worse
I went through most of my teenage to early-20’s years as a size 8, all the while wishing I was a size 4. But after an unfortunate pregnancy of ignorance and no self-control, I couldn’t squeeze my butt into a size 12 and I was desperate just to be a size 8 once more. Oh the irony! It made me realize that we must always appreciate what we have. I was so busy wishing I was something else (and feeling bad about not being it) that I failed to appreciate the positive. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: even if you’re morbidly obese and want nothing to do with your current body, just the fact that you have legs that move is reason enough to be grateful.
An attitude of gratefulness is critical to your success in reaching your next goal. Being in a bad situation often lends itself to thinking, “I deserve to be bitter about this because <…>. Expressing my negative emotions will help me move forward.”
Life doesn’t work that way. You can’t postpone positivity until you are done expressing your negativity — no matter how much you deserve to be upset. When we feed the beast of negativity (with resentment, anger, unforgiveness, hatred, spite, malice, etc.), we don’t just magically wake up one morning saying, “oh good, now that all that bitterness is out of my system I can go back to being happy and positive!”. Negativity breeds more negativity. And it’s a vicious cycle that can go on for an entire lifetime. Don’t think you’re above that because you’re not. The only way to avoid becoming that bitter old hag at the end of your years is to refuse negativity TODAY — even in response to the very injustice that could easily fuel your anger. No, especially in response to the very thing that gives you the “right” to be negative.
But back to the point of this post — why my kids are the best thing to ever happen to me.
Human Alarm Clock
I have to give props to Jack, my wonderful little human alarm clock, for helping me achieve my best body. That kid wakes me up at 6am each. and. every. morning. And not just a stumble-out-of-bed kinda 6am wake-up call but the kind of chipper joy that makes you think the kid’s already been up for three hours and downed two espressos. That early morning wake-up call was a driving force in my ability to stick with my morning gym routine.
More Capable Than You Think
Another reason having kids was the best thing that ever happened to my body is that having to lose the extra weight helped me realize that my body is far more capable than I ever gave it credit for. For so many years I believed that I was designed to be “curvy” — just aiming to be a size 6 seemed like a lofty goal. Being a size 2 was such a foreign concept to me that I couldn’t even visualize what that might look like. So instead, I just ruled it out as an impossibility.
Albeit out of sheer desperation to reclaim my former size 8 wardrobe, losing that “baby weight” (errr….pepperoni sticks and ice-cream weight…) demanded that I change my habits. And to my surprise, my body responded by going above and beyond what I expected.
You really are more capable than you think. And your body…it’s the most capable of all. If you master your mind, your body is ready and willing. Believe it!