Let’s get one thing straight. I don’t sugar-coat life. Not for me, not for my kids, and definitely not on this blog.
Sometimes I’m bang-on and offer incredible insight that has people changing their lives in a moment of complete and utter personal revelation (love those times!). And other times, I come off as an assuming jerk making face-value judgments and end up hurting someone (hate those times).
I recently ran into an acquaintance and in a matter of five short minutes, listened to her complain about every awful circumstance in her life followed by a myriad of “reasons” (read: excuses!) as to why she is powerless to change her situation.
Had she been a good friend, I can guarantee you I would have called her out for every single one of those excuses (which is why I have thick-skinned friends!) but seeing as I barely knew her, I simply gave up trying to help her solve her problem and said goodbye…hoping our paths wouldn’t cross again.
“You’re so lucky to be able to leave every morning and have time to hit the gym. I can never get away.”
“Oh, I can’t eat clean — I just don’t have time to cook.”
“If only the kids would give me ten minutes to myself, I’d be doing exercise videos, too.”
“You’re so lucky the boys are in school now! Once mine are in school, I’m definitely going to start working out.”
If you know the content of this blog, then you know that I don’t do well with shallow reasons for why someone can’t make their health a priority. And I certainly don’t do well hearing someone say that they don’t have time to make the health of their children a priority (because if you don’t have time to cook…what are you feeding your kids?!).
No, I haven’t been in your shoes, but I have been in my own (sometimes) heavy shoes and I’ve seen first-hand how quickly I can sabotage my own happiness and success by accepting the path of least resistance. It’s so much easier to just come up with some sort of justification to explain away our poor choices rather than actually face them. And yet with every “reason” comes another complacent decision to just lay down and let life, in all it’s crappiness, roll over you without a fight.
I’ll admit — lately, I’ve been wishing that I could be more gracious. More kind. More compassionate. But shoot, it’s not in my nature to be that way! I love motivating someone to achieve their best but let’s face it, I’m not your encouraging friend that has nothing but nice things to say while wearing a perma-smile. So although I wanted to write this article with compassion and understanding, the words elude me. Because I truly believe that excuses are the number one thing sabotaging our goals, our happiness and our successes.
Does life suck sometimes? YES.
Do things happen to us that are simply not fair? YES.
Do we have control over everything? NO.
But it’s not changing anytime soon! And pretending it will one day is just another escape from reality. My friend’s wishful thinking of “I’ll work out when the kids go to school” may or may not even pan out for her. Who knows what can happen from now until then! You have no guaranteed tomorrow. You only have today. But most importantly, you only have one chance to respond to it.
Make it count!